It’s just that. It really is. I want to have less connections in my life. I want less volume and more real connections. Proper, real, people I’d like to talk with online regularly. By having less connections I’m likely to see more of the people I want to be connected to, right?
I’m embarassed to admit this, but I have entirely fluffed it with LinkedIn. I’ve accepted requests from so many people who I don’t know. And why? Because they might be useful in the future? Because I must have met them somewhere but I can’t remember where? Because it’s rude to not accept? I cannot find a rationale that makes my accepting add up. It’s not socially coherent. It’s just like I’ve spammed myself!
So today, I’m drawing a line in the sand. I’m decluttering – a nice phrase for unfriendly, unlinking, unfollowing, disconnecting – I’m starting to socially and digitally tidy house. I want to know people better – my online real estate – my accounts, platforms, everything – they’re personal, they are of value. They are me. And I share a fair bit on them. I bring my full self to them. So much so on Facebook that I’ve taken to sharing using a #NoMoreFakebook hashtag – because I know that what I post is the polar opposite sometimes, to those perfect lives, with perfect posts.
Here’s the tweet that made me feel like I wanted to mark today as a day where things are starting to change – I was joining in with #BufferChat and we were all sharing what we use, how we use tools and how we manage our online lives. It felt great to be in a likeminded group and able to learn from people who weren’t showing off or bringing ego to the chat.
I’ve started this already on my personal Facebook profile. I’m going to continue there, and also on Twitter. Then I’m going to move onto LinkedIn. I’m a bird on a mission. I want more quality, less quantity.
Funny how that applies to so much of my approach to life these days – better quality food, less quantity of it. Better quality clothes, less quantity of them. Better quality of time with my family, less quantity of it (where I was checking my phone / not being mentally there).
What do you think to this? Is it my reading of Reinventing Organisations going too far? Or is it a healthy place to be aiming for?